Dear Facebook Friends

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They say Facebook is troublesome for this:

We watch one another proclaim the greatness in our lives.  The weddings, babies, promotions, amazing meals and grand celebrations.  It’s easy to become jealous of that- to want just that- the greatness.  The trouble, supposedly, is that the other stuff, the real life heart and gut wrench reality.

Family who can’t attend the wedding.  Babies who never come to exist.  Being passed up for promotion, again.  Eating out of the pot, because you’re too tired to get a plate.  The hunger, brokeness, crying, sleep deprivation.

The truth is, I’m glad I dont see all of that from you.  I’m glad in my mind you are happy, and smiling, and a little photoshopped in all the right places.  I’m glad your laundry isnt piled up like mine, your degrees are completed with honors, your art is selling well, and the band you love is playing in your town.  I like to think of you that way- happy, enthusiastic, encouraged and loving life.

My IRL friends, they know the truth of my life- the disappointments, and annoyances and horrors of chores.  But you and I, we get to live in la-la land together.

And that’s a sort of blessing, isn’t it?

XOXO Sarah Mae

I’ve committed to writing 30 letters in 30 days, according to the 30 Day Letter Challenge.  To learn more about my project, check out my introduction.


Dear Lobsters

The Lobsters being Mobsters circ. Summer 2011

Do you know how long it’s been?  Since that day that we became more than random schoolmates?  June of 2000.  It was the last day of the seventh grade.  Lobster J made me sign my proper name into her year book, she was amused by the long string of Scottish heritage.  Lobster K stood in the road at the corner of G- and 24th, where the pine still shaded in the late afternoon.  I thought I was cool with the Junior High Boyfriend, whom I was walking home with because I had accidentally on purpose missed the bus for.

Fourteen years, and two months.  We’ve laughed, cried, danced on the bed, partied well into the midnight’s, kissed boys, fallen in love, fallen out of love, lived in 3 countries, 6 states, countless dorms, apartments, and parents houses.  We got educations, life partners, homes, cars and careers.  We once drank alcoholic sparkling apple “juice,” were too smart to camp in the rain, hand tailored prom dresses, and started potato a newspaper.

And now we’re all grown up. Birthday cards are never on time (Lobster K, I will get you and Lobsterman’s out eventually!), phone calls and visits are rarer than they should be.  We have to schedule everything.  But you’re the ones I call.  When boys break my heart and outfits need evaluating or work sucks.  You’re the ones I Google distances from business trip- how far, how hard would it be to see her?

Funny thing, we’ve been together fourteen years, and yet most of it we’ve been apart.  The eternity we spent in school back home- that was five measly years.  And since then- colleges in separate states, then lives spread across the country; yet I’m closer to you than anyone in the world.  That picture up there is from the last summer we were all together- 2011.  Too long ago.  So 2014 is it- let’s book a trip, make new memories.  AND take a group photo where I don’t look insane (but maybe still themed, because you know I love a good theme).

XOXO You’re Lumpy Lobster

I’ve committed to writing 30 letters in 30 days, according to the 30 Day Letter Challenge.  To learn more about my project, check out my introduction.

Top Ten Tuesday: (Books About Friendship) May 20, 2014

Top Ten Books About Friendship

  1. Winnie the Pooh by A.A. Milne
    Where could you start with a list about friends, except where it began?  Winnie the Pooh, Piglet, and Christopher Robin reminding us that the important things are the people (or stuffies) around us.
  2. Charlotte’s Web by E.B. White
    A story about two outcasts and the love of reading is enough to make a book girl think twice about killing that spider in the shower.  Maybe.
  3. The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants (series) by Ann Brasheres
    A story whole based on the idea of friendship, and making it work as childhoods conclude- these characters grow together and apart in real ways, showing the dirty truth of young women in friendship.
  4. Paper Towns by John Green
    Road trips are a keynote of young adult friendship- the first glimpse of freedom, with the safety of someone you’ve known forever.  Paper Towns is especially poignant because it’s about friends coming together to help someone from their group who is a little lost.
  5. Summer Sisters by Judy Blume
    WARNING: This is not the Judy Blume of your childhood.  Okay it is, but its not appropriate for small children.  This is the intensely truthful examination of childhood friends who never fully fit together and their transition into adults who still don’t fit.  Its devastating in some places, heart warming in others, and keeps a place on my reread a million times shelf.
  6. Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austin
    While most think of this novel as solely a romance, it is just as much a novel about friendship.  Friendship between the Bennett sisters, their friendship with the Bingly family, and ultimately Elizabeth’s ability to make friends with William Darcy.  Ultimately, without friendships the novel would simply be silly girls.
  7. To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee
    Born out of the childhood adventures of life long friends Truman Capote and Harper Lee, Mockingbird is at it’s core about friendship and the desire to have them.  The relationship between Scout, Jeb, and Dill is central to Scout’s understanding of the world, and provides her the stability to engage with Boo.
  8. Frog and Toad (series) by Arnold Lobel
    Two similar but oh so different characters, grating on one another’s nerves, but still being friends?  These books should be required reading for every 22 year old!  These are lessons we were meant to learn in kindergarten but need reminded of daily.
  9. Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows by J.K. Rowling
    While friendship and love are the central unifying theme of the whole Harry Potter series, it is in this last book that we learn how very important it is. Harry, Hermione and Ron, are incomplete as wizards and characters without one another, and the Battle of Hogwarts would not have been the final battle, had the three of them not come together.
  10. The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein
    One of the saddest books you will ever read about love, loyalty, and friendship- and it’s deemed a children’s book!  This book makes me tear up a little every time, only because the truth is there: friendship can take all shapes, and we must honor them all.

This regular feature here at A MaeDay Life is a part of The Broke and the Bookish’s Top Ten Tuesday’s.  This week’s theme was “Ten Books About Friendship

Y is for The Old Days, When We Were Young

The Old Days, When We Were Young

or, Youth is Wasted on the Young

When we were young
what did we do
with the time that we
could have used?
We drank and swore
and some smoked
as we explored the world
in dirty pick up trucks.
We laughed and loved
and talked big game
about the things that we
couldn’t begin to see
at the tender age of
We played and saw
more world than school
entertained wild ideas
about futures
never thought about our tombs.
How much more adult could you be
than eighteen?
We thought these friends
were to the end
the war’d be quick
the sick would heal
our futures were utterly
And now we sit
as grown folks do
around coffee tables
and legal brew
thinking back
to the times we had
saying youth is wasted
on the young
with a smile
and a laugh.

For the month of April I’ve committed to writing 26 poems, falling into the Alphabet.  To learn more about my project, check out my introduction.  To learn more about the A-to-Z Challenge visit

Five Favorite Friday: April 18, 2014

This Friday is brought to you by my Grandmother… and her brilliance of wanting a 75th birthday party in Las Vegas.  Happy Birthday Gran!

Gran, Mom and I on a Dinner Cruse for my Birthday. Honolulu Hawaii, October 2010.

  1. My accountant mother, who does my taxes with me standing there, supplying her with various forms I’ve received.  Seriously she does the whole families taxes in a weekend, and I basically just show up.  Love you Mom!
  2. Powell’s Nalegene Collection I have a small large collection of these, and I proudly let my Portlander Geek Freak flag fly while I travel with them in hand.  Mine also sport my bumper sticker collection, since I’m not a fan of getting my car keyed.  Smart people Hydrate!
  3. This week’s The Broke and Bookish Top Ten Tuesday Responses.  The prompt was amazing, and I really enjoyed seeing what everyone else wants… now of course my covet list is up to like 90, instead of just my original 10.

    The Lobsters and I, many New Years Eve moons ago.   Lobster J is in the middle, Lobster K is on the left, I am on the right.

  4. Lobster J.  This week was her Birthday.  And she’s been a fantastic friend since the last day of seventh grade, when she learned my whole name in a singlegreeting- she still has the yearbook with it written into the crease.  Without a doubt I would be a different person without her in my life.

    BookBoy and I at Mt. Rushmoore, September 2012. The guy who took this was a BIG biker and was very excited because it was the most romantic place  to propose- we were afraid to tell him we weren’t getting married.  Note the Nalgene in my hand- he is hiding his behind his back .

  5. BookBoy, whose Birthday was also this week (they are only 1 day apart).  BookBoys mom (BookMom) chatted the Lobsters’ and I up on Registration Day of Senior Year in High School.  Since then he and I have written hundreds of letters, shared prayers and secrets, survived my college and his war experiences, and driven cross country in a Mazda.  We have never dated- but I am closer to him than I have been to most boyfriends.

What (and who) do you loves this week?

Happy Friday! Love, Mae

Five Favorite Friday: April 11, 2014

Somebody give me an alleluia, it’s Friday!

  1. Mutual Respect in the Social Sphere.  This week I saw two break-ups, three hook-ups (dating / engagement / marriage), a whole lot of kids doing funny (or horrible things), and two parents pass away in my online social world.  Those who choose to live their lives but not their drama publicly remind me that it is possible to share with grace and love and support.  Those who choose to complain about their children, publicly curse their partner, and disregard their families wishes are rapidly being unfriendly and un-friended.
  2. This week’s Autobiography of Jane Eyre episode, Pied Piper.  Friendship and love come from the same place- and sometimes they come on video too.

    “You picked a banana”
    “Banana peppers are a thing, right?”
    “Aren’t you a doctor?”
    “Yes, not a banana doctor though.”

  3. 16 year old Brit poet Max Miller.  He’s writing really intelligent and insightful stuff, and I kind of sort of dont believe he is sixteen.  Okay, maybe he is, but still, considering some of my reject pile for my A-to-Z Challenge, I’d like to lodge a complaint against the muse board, on the basis of seniority.
  4. Children Who Must Not Be Named and their prank on a friend of mine (a.k.a. their mother).  After catching some heat for whatever childish offense they had committed earlier in the week, she woke up to find someone changed her electronic profiles on all devices in their home to “Voldemort.”  I genuinely don’t know how she (and her equally good parent husband) kept it together to punish them again.  I’m thinking beaming with pride while laughing while doling out punishments may be a skill I don’t possess.
  5. The OUTPOURING of love and support for my friend J.H., and his GRATITUDE in response.  He posted about his gratitude for his family and friends just after doctors informed the family his sick father would not make it through the night.  We rallied together, sending encouragement, thoughts and prayers through the night, and he responded with more kindness and gratitude.  And this is what makes social media great.

What do you loves this week?

Happy Friday! Love, Mae