Dear Facebook Friends

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They say Facebook is troublesome for this:

We watch one another proclaim the greatness in our lives.  The weddings, babies, promotions, amazing meals and grand celebrations.  It’s easy to become jealous of that- to want just that- the greatness.  The trouble, supposedly, is that the other stuff, the real life heart and gut wrench reality.

Family who can’t attend the wedding.  Babies who never come to exist.  Being passed up for promotion, again.  Eating out of the pot, because you’re too tired to get a plate.  The hunger, brokeness, crying, sleep deprivation.

The truth is, I’m glad I dont see all of that from you.  I’m glad in my mind you are happy, and smiling, and a little photoshopped in all the right places.  I’m glad your laundry isnt piled up like mine, your degrees are completed with honors, your art is selling well, and the band you love is playing in your town.  I like to think of you that way- happy, enthusiastic, encouraged and loving life.

My IRL friends, they know the truth of my life- the disappointments, and annoyances and horrors of chores.  But you and I, we get to live in la-la land together.

And that’s a sort of blessing, isn’t it?

XOXO Sarah Mae


I’ve committed to writing 30 letters in 30 days, according to the 30 Day Letter Challenge.  To learn more about my project, check out my introduction.

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Five Favorite Friday: April 11, 2014

Somebody give me an alleluia, it’s Friday!

  1. Mutual Respect in the Social Sphere.  This week I saw two break-ups, three hook-ups (dating / engagement / marriage), a whole lot of kids doing funny (or horrible things), and two parents pass away in my online social world.  Those who choose to live their lives but not their drama publicly remind me that it is possible to share with grace and love and support.  Those who choose to complain about their children, publicly curse their partner, and disregard their families wishes are rapidly being unfriendly and un-friended.
  2. This week’s Autobiography of Jane Eyre episode, Pied Piper.  Friendship and love come from the same place- and sometimes they come on video too.

    “You picked a banana”
    “Banana peppers are a thing, right?”
    “Aren’t you a doctor?”
    “Yes, not a banana doctor though.”

  3. 16 year old Brit poet Max Miller.  He’s writing really intelligent and insightful stuff, and I kind of sort of dont believe he is sixteen.  Okay, maybe he is, but still, considering some of my reject pile for my A-to-Z Challenge, I’d like to lodge a complaint against the muse board, on the basis of seniority.
  4. Children Who Must Not Be Named and their prank on a friend of mine (a.k.a. their mother).  After catching some heat for whatever childish offense they had committed earlier in the week, she woke up to find someone changed her electronic profiles on all devices in their home to “Voldemort.”  I genuinely don’t know how she (and her equally good parent husband) kept it together to punish them again.  I’m thinking beaming with pride while laughing while doling out punishments may be a skill I don’t possess.
  5. The OUTPOURING of love and support for my friend J.H., and his GRATITUDE in response.  He posted about his gratitude for his family and friends just after doctors informed the family his sick father would not make it through the night.  We rallied together, sending encouragement, thoughts and prayers through the night, and he responded with more kindness and gratitude.  And this is what makes social media great.

What do you loves this week?

Happy Friday! Love, Mae

Answers for Eclectic Odds N Snods

Justine over at Eclectic Odds N Snods encountered an issue I recently overcame admitted. Following too many blogs, posting too many posts, social-ing too many networks, and forgetting to eat, sleep and (well, you know the rest of that sentence).  In an effort to get her life right, she put some questions into the blogosphere (did I spell that right?), and in the interest of being a good new-bloggy friend, I’m going to answer them for her.

Without further ado; questions, and answers.

How many blogs do you follow?
Somewhere around 100ish, or more.  Some of them only post montly, others post close to hourly.  But I subscribe to everything via email (or have their respective systems email me)- and I set it up to receive an email with every post (not in digests).

Do you read all their posts, please elaborate, ie some, how do you determine which?
Define “all.”  A lot the blogs I follow are image intensive, so you can be like- “yep, that’s a tree” and move on.  I’m also a skimmer, so I wont fully engage with rants or book reviews, unless there’s something I’m interested in.  And after a while, if I catch myself not paying attention to a particular blogs posts, then I unsubscribe.

How do you feel if you miss someone’s post?
I feel like you can always go back and read if you don’t understand what’s going on.  That’s the brilliance of having blogs- there’s a timeline and a history, right there available 24-7.

What is your priority in blogging in your daily routine ie reading up first, commenting, or writing?
My priority is my blog.  So I focus on getting out my regular posts (I aim for 5x week- more about that later), but I read other’s posts as I can (usually while waiting for things to load at work) through out the day, then I use anything that sparks my intrest / inspiration to create a draft (usually just the link and title, but sometimes more) for later writings.

How long do you spend reading up on blogs daily?
All day, and none of the day.  I don’t set time aside for it, but I use it to fill up time that would be otherwise spent starring into space.

How long do you spend commenting, be it return comments or instigating daily?
Maybe half an hour- I make it a point to thank everyone who comments on my work, if I can.  Then, I comment on blogs I follow if I have something to add to the conversation, or I want to encourage the author in their endeavors or a particular event.

Do you go and visit other outside blogs, if so how often and how the heck do you find the time?
I follow a lot of links, down the rabbit hole of the internet.  I also visit any blog that’s author “likes” or comments on my work.  I find the time by opening a lot of tabs, then “reading really fast” at the end of the day when I am ready to go home from work.

How many posts do you write a week?
Currently (with the exclusion of the A-to-Z Challenge) I aim for 5+ a week.  Most of these fall into project specific timelines and formats, so it’s easier to manage.  For example: Top Ten Tuesdays, Wordless Wednesdays, Thoughtful Thursdays, and 5 Favorite Fridays. The plus comes from my attempts:  at least one review up a week (that so doesn’t happen right now), and a traditional blog post, and piece of creative writing.  I manage all of this by utilizing scheduled posts, and working when I have the time, energy, and creativity- it’s not as spontaneous as some, but I need the structure and the time to accommodate my life and regular work.  Also, I would hate to be a feast/famine blogger- I don’t want to subject my readers to my crazy schedule.

Are you involved in external social media, ie facebook, flickr, instagram, if so how much time daily do you spend on this?
Yes, but only really for my personal interests / life.  I do follow other bloggers accounts occasionally, but I blog for fun, and I’m not making a job (or even money) out of it.  If I were more serious about the whole thing, I might start and manage additional accounts, but for now I rather enjoy having a single home online.  I feel like sometimes people get over extended into multiple platforms, and then you’re like a divorced kid who cant remember which house your math homework was last seen in.

Justine (and any other struggling blogger out there) I hope this helps!  If you have more questions- or just need a lot of blog ideas (I have about 100 drafts) email me at maedaylife@gmail.com

Loves, Mae

PS- WordPress, or Google Chrome, or Microsoft 7 just auto-corrected my email address into “mailbomb.”  Very nice artificial intelligence.  I really feel the love!